Love Your Tree
My 15 year old daughter, Clarise, just blew me away with her natural and accidental prophecy.
Clarise’s teaching here is so relevant to all of us during these times, we both wanted you to have access to it. This wisdom came pouring through Clarise for her friend. I believe we are ALL channels of great wisdom when we are open. Enjoy this intimate peek inside the meaningful conversation of two teenage girls about life and love.
This was the subject line of her text forward to me:
OMG MOM I JUST TAUGHT MY FRIEND SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL THAT I TOTALLY JUST ADDLIBBED I HAD NO IDEA HOW BRILLIANT THIS WOULD TURN OUT I JUST WANTED TO PUT HER MIND ON SOMETHING THAT WASNT HER EX AAAAAAH IM FREAKING OUT RIGHT NOW I LOVE MY TREE SO MUCH
She gave me permission to share here the transcript of a text conversation she had with her friend who was mourning a lost relationship. And here is the transcript (edited just barely to protect names)…
Friend: I miss my ex-boyfriend. Make it stop with your friend powers. PLZ
Clarise: Ok imagine yourself in a box
OK
This box has a tree and you are hugging the tree
Ok
This box has only enough room in it for you and the tree
This tree loves you a lot and you love this tree
Kk Sure
Tree has a sweet smell and has silky bark.
This tree is yours and yours alone
Ohhh Awesome Ok
The only thing that can hurt this tree is you.
And the only thing that can hurt you is the tree
Oh
So you must keep peace with this tree, understand? This tree has your name.
I have a tree too. My tree is named Clarise
But that’s not important right now.
You only have to care for YOUR tree
Yes. Ok. But how does that keep me from missing him?
This tree does not need sunlight or soil, nor water or air
OK but clarise, I miss him so much. I love him so much.
This tree does not care for your ex. This tree is now jealous that you are thinking about that a**hole while you are supposed to be paying attention to your tree!
Haha OMG
This tree feeds on love.
But not anyone elses love, only your love.
But the love cannot be for someone else.
This love has to be for your tree.
Not many people know about this loving tree.
Oh But I love him still Dang. This is a really good analogy.
But those who know, and have come to peace with their tree are the most beautiful and radiant. These people are the happiest.
Hogg. Sorry autocorrect
Listen to me
I meant to say ohh but it changed it
Sorry I’m listening
You are in a box with your tree. You must pay very close attention to this tree.
Don’t let your mind wander off.
Don’t think of anyone but your tree, your own tree.
Love your own tree.
Ok. It’s hard.
Feed your tree. Make sure she is never without herself.
You can never leave this tree.
I’ll try my hardest. Ok
You don’t have to try, just do.
The tree will help you.
How?
It will guide you, and it will hug you back.
Ok but what do I do?
No one else can make you feel happier than this tree. Don’t “do” anything
What about my future husband or you? Ur my best friend! 🙂
We can only teach you about this tree.
That is all we can do. You are the only one in that box.
That sucks. I need people
I’m not saying that you don’t have us. We are always here. We will always love you.
And we will always be here as a shoulder for you to lean on and an informational source you can (hopefully) rely on.
I know I just want to stop thinking about him and just willpower can’t stop my brain from thinking about him.
Ok then think about him.
Don’t force yourself to not think about him. That won’t work.
Ugh, I know. I don’t know what to do to feel better.
Love him, fine. But NEVER forget to love your tree.
Listen to me.
IF YOU WONT LISTEN TO ME, THEN LISTEN TO YOUR TREE.
I will listen to my tree. I promise.
Your tree can love you more than anyone else in the world, but if you get mad at it, you are blaming it for yourself being human.
I know I don’t mean to
I’m allowed to say mean things about your tree, your ex can trick your tree into thinking that he cares, but none of that matters. Your tree feels none of it.
Your tree only feels you.
What? Awww 🙂
You can choose to feel pain, and pain is ok. Your tree will show you the way through pain as long as you still love the tree.
But if you try to push your tree away, if you hate the tree for letting you feel pain, then the tree won’t have the ability to hold you.
Its voice won’t reach you.
Oh that sucks.
No it doesn’t
OK
The tree is love, but it cannot create its own love.
It is nourished from your love directed to it, whether you think of it as a “tree” or not.
Oh I see. Thank you for this advice. I should go to bed now.
OK
Nite
I’ll tell you more about your tree tomorrow. Goodnight.
Sorry if it sounded like a lecture, but I think I even taught myself something tonight.
That’s really cool.
Thank you, A LOT.
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Clarise and I talked a lot more about this teaching of hers the next day. We took a walk near the beach, and she let me take some photos of her in a big tree to share. She even recorded some more of her thoughts into my phone as we walked. Feel free to listen to this informal interview recording below or click here to download.
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A few things to ponder in the wake of this share…
Do you listen to the profound wisdom that pours through kids?
Do you believe we are all capable of allowing spiritual wisdom to pour through us?
I’d love to hear your own thoughts and stories on the subject! :))
Meanwhile, enjoy these sacred days.
Clarise,
You are very brave to share your truth. Thank you for your wisdom.
Perhaps it has occurred to you what the metaphor for the tree represents but I’ll give you my interpretation based on the information you provided.
Since we each have a tree in our box that has our own name it would seem that the tree represents our potential for loving ourselves. As we can only feel the love from the tree when we love the tree and allow ourselves to feel the love from the tree we must first love ourselves and accept our own love before we can truly feel that love for ourselves. Others can love us outside our box but only we have the ability to love ourselves on the inside – no one can do that for us no matter how much they might love us.
Along these lines, since we are in the box with the tree, or can choose to be there anytime we want, we can protect ourselves from the slings and arrows of life from other people because we have the potential of our own inner world where we love ourselves no matter what. And since no matter what we do to the tree that the tree can never be destroyed then the potential for the tree to love us seems to refer to our eternal life – we can never die eternally on the inside no matter what damage we might try to do to ourselves.
Up until now I have found that the concept of loving ourselves is very difficult to practice – partly because I believe we generally need a lot of healing to get to a place where we can love ourselves in our full power. However, having a tree in a box to represent loving ourselves is much easier to understand and carry out because we are familiar with three dimensional tangible concepts. To me it is also fitting that your wisdom uses a tree since I’ve been Guided to understand that there is a Tree of Life and a Tree of Everlasting Life (both of which are the same tree) which animates our current incarnation and keeps us alive for eternity.
I’m grateful that you are open to your intuitive nature and that you are fortunate to have a mother that nourishes this within you. I hope that you continue to enjoy this holiday season. Thanks again for sharing – I’m richer because of your wisdom.
Sincerely yours,
James Wandler
Merry Christmas to you, Mellissa,
& all your family, clan, tribes and trees!
Happy am I today; sitting under 2 beautiful, mature trees I’ve “adopted…” bright post- rain Christmas sun & full moon above…
in a long-loved garden, new to me, in my new abode.
Guarding the gate in a corner of the garden wall a transplanted cactus grows taller. It was given me by your grandparents, from their garden.
Honored am I to have known you & been welcomed into your parents’ home.
Now, hearing your daughter Clarise’ wise words here (Hello Clarise!) – I’m pleased that you’re introducing to us another
– & to me, a 4th generation of –
your thoughtful & caring family.
Writing this to you & yours, I recognize the great love of my own family. Members of my family tree are enroute to visit today.
Joyful am I anticipating their presence.
Grateful am I to have enjoyed our common shelter and nourishment.
Blessed to still be held safe in their support.
Members of 4 generations of my own family have I been able to know & hold in love.
Planting now a new “Michael-mas Michael-tree,” my own useful, growing imagery
(& luckily travels anywhere I might choose to be)
…
Thanks for the inspiration!
Cheers,
Michael.
Just beautiful. Deep wisdom pouring from Clarise. Thank you for sharing. I teach self-love, and feel inspired to share this with some of my clients – and a great reminder to myself and a new visual to use that will enable me to ‘be’ with myself in a different way at times. Love, Ariella
I love this tree advice Clarise gave to her friend!!! When I was in deep despair over a guy, I had a visual of this huge angel wrapping me up in love and nobody could mess wit this love no matter what happened to me. Thank you both for providing such profound wisdom 🙂
Love,
Corinn