Number Naked

Number Naked


I  remember the way the embarrassment that tingled my cheeks the first time someone saw me Number Naked.

I was on the Big Island of Hawaii in the year 2007, sitting in a beautiful Bali hut type house, when my friends started talking about their Enneagram types.

Their what?

Their Enneagram Numbers. It’s a thing.

Anyhoo – They had me take this little quiz thing to determine my “Enneagram type”.

Well, it was a short quiz on the internet.  And I guess I kinda cheated on it. 

Cause I said, “Well, I must be a 7, just like my boyfriend.”  And they looked askance at each other and giggled at me.

“If you need your number to be the same as your boyfriend, I think perhaps you might be a 2,” said one of the really enlightened friends that I totally admired.  My cheeks tingled. 

And then they laughed out loud – cause they KNEW me.

Oh.  Um, OK.
“Sorry,” my friend said, “I’m not really supposed to just TELL you what type you are, but it is so freakin obvious, Mellissa.”

So I looked at the description of the Type 2 on the Enneagram,
and I was surprised, horrified, and found myself stark NAKED in the room.


I was horrified at the Type 2 description because…  It sounded just like my MOTHER.
It described all the things that bugged me about my mom. Stuff that triggered me. Angered me.  Stuff I judged.

And then I started to sob, all Number Naked like I was, because I knew that was ME. Me too. I’m a two.

Now let me get Number Naked for you… right here… right now… are you ready?

I tend towards giving too much – more than anyone actually asked for or wanted – and then feeling resentful after because they didn’t appreciate my over-giving servility.

I tend to charm people so they like me.  And if they don’t like me, I feel panicky and will use all my powers of manipulation and persuasion to convince them I’m whatever they need me to be to love me.

I must be appreciated and admired and adored – but I won’t ask for what I need.  You have to guess.

Dude.  I’m SO a Two.

OK, yes the Two has lots of GOOD stuff too – just like every type does – we are great hosts, caretakers, pleasure-givers.  We are charming, loving, and generous.  We are show-er-up-ers.  We help you move.  We nurture.

And of course ALL of the Enneagram types have their goods and their bads.

Now, if you work with PEOPLE – like especially if you’re a therapist or a coach or a salesperson of anything… if you need to understand people in order to do well in the world…

Understanding the Enneagram opens up a WORLD of ease, understanding, and great business relationships.

It gives you peace.

Suddenly, EVERYone makes sense – not just the people who have your Naked Number!!!

When my friend Ben Saltzman, the Enneagram Expert of the West Coast and one of my FAVORITE people invited me to come and be a “panelist” at his 5-Day Enneagram training, I said (gulp) “Yes.”

I will be Number Naked at this event for 5 days.

In fact, a bunch of thought leaders, expert speakers, and creative professionals will be sitting naked up there with me – all so that the participants of this 5-days can see our dirtiest little secrets, and our deepest cheek-tingling embarrassing stories, and our pain and our glory.

And we semi-famousy folks are doing this because we WANT to be revealed, to be busted, and to be educated. We are there for the transformation. And we TRUST Ben Saltzman and the space he holds.

I have friends who have attended this same event in the past.  And they all said it was a LIFE changer. 

Some past participants weren’t even counselors or coaches.  They just went for the sake of their relationships – ALL their relationships – and ended up counting it as a life-changing event for them.

They laughed.
They cried.
And they nodded their heads the whole dang time.
They said that I should be prepared to FINALLY understand my parents, my past relationships, and even my kids.  It opens all that up.
They said I’ll be a way better business person – serving my clients, and also selling my services to people according to their E type.

So I’m excited.
And I’m nervous.
And I know it’s time.

Wanna get Number Naked with me?

Come to this event.

You will NEVER regret it – and your relationships will flourish, as will your self-love.

James and the Invisible Butler

Did you know that you’ve got an Invisible Butler who is standing by, ready to protect the front door for you, ready to direct the rest of your team to serve you, and who is just WAITING for you to give permission  for huge help, support, and resources to flow your way?

True Story.

I was living at Harbin Hot Springs, in my little hut by the creek, giving sessions in the garden, and basically living a life of spiritual retreat and deep healing.  This was right after my big “awakening” that turned me from Stanford educated lawyer to… what?  shaman? intuitive?  psychic?  healer?  That’s what people called me, (and many still do).  Anyway I was kinda trying to figure that out.

And meanwhile, people FOUND me.  I mean, it was “marketing by God” all the way.  I was like one of those old wise women living atop a mountain in a cave, and people *mysteriously* found their way to me.

One of those people was a guy I’ll call James.  James showed up on the doorstep of my hut, acting a bit crazy.  He was a tall striking looking robust bald guy with bright blue eyes.  He didn’t look like he “belonged” at Harbin because he was wearing a really nice watch, and  had the air of old money.  (Hey, I was raised around people of means, so I somehow know the vibe.)

James was wide eyed, wild eyed, and obviously had been crying.  He looked exhausted, strung out.  And I admit I was asking myself – is this guy high?  Is he nutball crazy?  Is he safe?

But I could feel my guidance giggling inside me.  Yes.  He is safe.  Yes.  He is meant to be here.  Let him in.

James poured out a story that was all too familiar.  He had always been a respected businessman.  He had always been that smart guy who had it all together.  Suddenly, a few weeks ago, he accidentally got REALLY psychic.  And for the past few weeks, he’d been unable to sleep.  He felt hounded by the Spirit world.  He was hearing everyone’s dead talking to him – all the time.  He could see what was coming in the future, and then it was proving true.

Of course, he was amazed by all this.  At some level he felt grateful to access all this insight, these mysteries.

But right now, his body was freaking out.

He was worried he was losing his mind.

He hadn’t slept.

And there was no one in his “normal life” he could talk to about this.

I led James down to my creekside “office” – a simple wood deck with a futon on it, 5 feet from the pool with the two waterfalls – one warm from the hot springs, one cold from the creek (yes, I am serious.  the place was incredible)

I guided James to follow his breath, and I gave him an energy clearing.  In my mind’s eye, I could see that his dimensional layers had opened – allowing him to see through many dimensions at once.  I could also see that many energies had intruded through this new opening, and some of them were not “in the highest good.”  Some were bugging him.  Some were tormenting him.  And because he didn’t know how to invite in only the good stuff (he was not a religious or faith-filled guy previously), he was overwhelmed with “visitors” who were  troublesome, in addition to the good guys.

So our first step – I guided James (and highly encouraged him) to set his intention for the Highest Good.  (This was last week’s Genius Experiment, BTW)  And he did.  As soon as he set his compass to connect only with what is in the Highest Good, a lot of energies buzzed off.  And I could easily sort and remove the troublemakers from his field.

Secondly, I introduced James to the concept of Spirit Guides.  Again, this guy was anti-religious.  Passionately so.  He was a high-end professional in his world.  He was an extremely wealthy guy from a ridiculously wealthy family.  And he wasn’t into woo…. Except now, the Woo was into HIM!

After explaining that Spirit Guides are really just symbols for bigger energies of love and support that we can’t otherwise understand with our little brains, he started to open to the idea.  But it still wasn’t clear to him – I wasn’t asking him to “worship” them.  I was inviting them to HELP him.

Oh wait.  Invisible Butler.

A butler was a role James could understand.  “Oh yes,” he said, “A butler is someone who controls who can contact me, who can reach me.  A butler protects me from contacts that want to use me or drain me.  A butler watches out for me, quietly, in the background.  A butler is like an executive assistant and personal assistant and almost a parent – all at once.”


“James, you need to set an Invisible Butler,” I said.

So he imagined one.  And named him.  And then imagined this Invisible Butler like a giant angel, like a powerful guide who could manage the other spirit guides.  His Butler became  his  go-to invisible support.  He could keep out the bad spirits.  He could test the good ones to make sure they were good.  He could keep everyone out so that James could SLEEP.  He could help James body to integrate all these big new abilities.  He could help James set boundaries.  He could advise James.

And James could choose, with his Butler’s advise, what to do.

“Because,” I told James, “our guides are not here to be worshipped and bowed to.  Their advice is just that – advice. And we are the ones who choose.  We are the ones in this body, in this life, who must do the choosing. Our Invisible Team is like our board of directors, ready to advise, but not to be treated as an authority over our own living loving selves.”

He got it.

And he still points to that day as a turning point.

Actually, he has said on many occasions that he felt that advice “saved his life.”  He was already on such an edge.

That night, after receiving his Invisible Butler, he slept a full night for the first time in WEEKS.  And he used his new supported boundary skills to become one of the most gifted talented psychics I’ve ever known.  And by far the most lucrative.  He charged $50K per session at one point, and was able to reach global elite peeps who are not usually getting access to channeled info.  He made a difference for them.  He felt comfortable with them, so they could open up to him.  (Yes, there are many very wealthy folk who must pay $50,000 for something in order to value it.)  And James gave all that money away (what did he need with more money?) building wells in under-developed countries.

So, I’m inviting you now to set your own Invisible Butler.

It is this week’s experiment in my free Genius Experiment group on Facebook. 

You really should go join that group now.   Cause I’m giving away a lot of awesome training like this – at no charge.

In fact, this whole month in Genius Experiment, we are talking about how to leverage your Spirit Guides for success in biz and life.

And if you want me to help you like I helped James, just reach out to me mellissa@

I’m here to help you bridge the worlds.

Power Hungry Professionals Going Woo

Are You Power Hungry?  I am.

As a lawyer I was power hungry.

And as an intuitive I’ve been power hungry.

And I’m still power hungry.

I hope you are too.

The key question… What kind of power are you hungry for?

Wouldn’t it be great if the kind-hearted people, the creative geniuses, and the leaders of integrity had the POWER?

Which power?

Political power – the ability to change the rules.

Economic power – the ability to funnel the resources.

Personal power – the embodied energy that makes you a leader.


The Highest Power – alignment with Soul, with Evolution, with Big Power.

This one might necessitate going kinda Woo.

See, in the old schools of power, we’ve relegated the highest powers of all – the power of miracles, the power of direct co-creation with the Creator, the direct tapping of intentional power when it’s aligned with the highest good – we’ve relegated all of these to either religious or silly.


Well, times they are a-changin.

And more and more professional folks who hold POWER of this world, are becoming re-devoted to the wisdom of our own hearts – that knows that the Highest Power is a Mystery that we reach across the veil to touch.  And this calls for faith, surrender, prayer… and a BIG love.


I’ve got substantial proof.  See, I get to work with these folks.

So many professional people who have acquired big power, reputation, and acclaim in the worldly intellectual stuff are now awakening to a growing longing to connect spiritually.


Because they just KNOW that connecting spiritually will allow them to leverage the power they already have in this world to do not just “things” but the things that MATTER most.

  • They feel a deeper Calling than ever.
  • They are awakening intuitively (even if they don’t want to)
  • They are becoming more empathic (even though that’s uncomfortable)


  • they are looking for support that’s not too woo, even though it’s actually quite woo.  They need to stay grounded, even in spiritual power.  Good!

Somehow, cause I went to Stanford, cause I’m a former lawyer, I’m seen as a safe guide in this.

It’s a big honor.

I love it.

But I can feel there are some of these folks looking for me, and they can’t find me.

Will you help?

* Do you know some professional folk who are wrestling with a big intuitive awakening right now?

* Know someone who has always been kinda Type-A but now is being kept up at night by their inner voice that is becoming LOUD?

* Who do you know who is considering leaving the “mainstream” position of power they’ve always held in order to step into a new (scary) chapter where they dare to be a bit more woo?

Write me

Introduce us.

And I’ll give you both my personal attention, my support, my guidance.  No charge.

Ya see – It’s my soul’s gift to aid and abet professionals who are waking up to their soul’s calling.

I provide a clear revealing of their soul purpose.  I can read their life purpose.  I can facilitate profound and permanent clearing of the blocks and fears.  And I can design a business plan for and with them that is a perfect fit to make them happy and fulfill their soul’s calling all at once.  Seriously.

I do it cause I care about the state of this world.  And we need those leaders in their soul’s work – NOW.  It’s time.

Email me at, and put your friend’s email in the to or cc field, and then tell me why you feel that person should get some free attention from me.  Brag about them.  Let them know you care about supporting them in what can sometimes be a scary shift.  Let them know you want them to feel supported in following their soul’s calling. (everyone needs encouragement to take the next step.)  And then let’s make it happen. 🙂

How To Meet Your Spirit Guides

Want to Meet Your Spirit Guides?

Dude, It’s as Easy as 1-2-3

Even a Stanford-educated former lawyer like myself can get into connecting with Spirit Guides when I realize just how well it WORKS!  Here are some benefits to connecting with your Spirit Guides, as I see it…

* It’s like having an invisible team you don’t have to pay, who work 24/7 for the rest of your life – for YOU!

* It’s a non-religious yet deeply spiritual thing that exists in almost every wisdom tradition, and even fits alongside of many traditional religions (call em Angels, Saints, Genii if you’d like)

* It makes it easier to talk to God if you imagine different personalities with different specialties – cause the human brain is limited, People!

* When you put your Guides to work on something, it’s running in the background while you can work on other stuff.

* Surrendering to a higher power is a fantastic stress-reliever.

* You get parking spaces a lot easier.  Test this. It works.

* It’s a sneaky way of getting yourself to “pray” – that is, to connect directly to Spirit/Creator and have a conversation!

Anyway, engaging with Spirit Guides is also just fun.

3 Most Important Tips about Spirit Guides

So I’m going to share the 3 most important tips I think you need to know to connect directly with your Spirit Guides without making it hard or boring. 😉

1.  Invisible Friends – Remember when you were a kid, and you had invisible friends you played with?  Do that.  Imagine your Guide, as a benevolent wise friend.  And talk to your Guide.  And imagine what your Guide would say.  That’s it.  Don’t make this hard.  Just do it.

2. The Good Guys – As you imagine/connect with your Guides, set your powerful intention to ONLY connect with the Good Guys- that is, the energies that are in alignment with the Highest Good.  That way, you don’t have to worry about calling in energies that are troublemakers.  It’s like when you throw a party – you invite who you WANT to talk to. You don’t just throw open the front door to the world and yell “Free Booze!”

3. You’re the Boss – Your Spirit Guides are wise, powerful, and have a big vision view.  That’s cool.  But because YOU’re the one in the body, making the choices, you get to have the final word.  So ask their advice, listen to it, and then do what your intellect and intuition agree you should do.  Don’t use Guides as a cop-out.  Don’t give your responsibility away.  That said, your Spirit Guides’ ability to help you is limited only by your limiting beliefs.  So set your intention, call them in, and put them to work!

Want me to give you some specific training and exercises to do to connect with your Guides – all without charging you any cash?  Okeedokie.

Join my Genius Experiment group here today, and it’s my gift to you.

Then check out Experiments 8, 9, 10 & 11… and you’ll have yourself a full on fun experiential training with me!  Whee!

Don’t forget to join the Genius Experiments group right now – at no charge. Enjoy!

Pleasure Deficit Syndrome

There’s a big fat lie afoot, and it’s crippling creative genius people everywhere!

The lie says that real geniuses work hard.
It says they put their noses to the grindstone (ouch!).
It says they burn the midnight oil.
It says they suffer for their work.
It says that great writers are depressed alcoholics,
and great artists are suicidal nut-jobs,
and the most ingenious innovators are hard-driving narcissists.


Cause it’s just not true.

I have the honor and privilege of knowing some true channels of genius. Some are tech creative company founders. Some are incredibly innovative moms and women leaders. Some are spiritual teachers and clergy.

What do they have in common?
They freakin’ enjoy life.
They don’t do stuff unless it’s fun.

Yes, they are always doing stuff, creating things, and moving their desires forward pragmatically.
But they don’t overwork. They don’t push until steam is pouring out of their ears like in the cartoons.

In fact, they spend a lot of time in leisure, in rest, and in inspiring activities. In pleasure.

Look around. Those who are running like they’re in a hamster wheel are going nowhere (much like said hamster).

Think about it. Remember the last time you had a truly inspired idea? I bet it was in a moment of pleasure – in the shower, looking at a gorgeous view, or dare I say in the boudoir?

So let’s call a spade a spade.

Grumpy, exhausted, worn-out people are not open channels for the best ideas.

It actually ticks me off when I think about the creative genius folk I know, and how so many are overworked, underpaid, and totally burned out. What a freakin’ waste.
And it’s epidemic. So I’m giving it a disease epidemic kinda name.

Pleasure Deficit Syndrome.

Hell, there’s even evidence for this.

• In a 2014 Kaufmann study, 72% of respondents around the world reported having insights and ideas whilst in the shower.
• A UC Santa Barbara 2012 study found evidence that people who daydream more frequently are generally more creative.
• American Psychological Association found that Stress is bad for creativity.

In other words, relaxing while daydreaming under a hot shower is the best thing you can do for your creative business.

Seriously. Stop being so serious. It’s bad for biz.

Pleasure lights up the creative centers. Pleasure releases creativity-enhancing hormones. Pleasure is relaxing, and therefore opens the way for your creative flow.

In coaching thousands of people for 20 years in how to step up into their intuitive creative gifts while making more impact, more money, and having more fun, I gotta say I have seen increases in pleasure in life have more impact on a person’s health and success than perhaps any other factor.

And I have learned that, as an entrepreneur or business founder, unless your business is FUN and pleasurable to you, you’ll fail. Why? Pleasure Deficit Syndrome kills… ideas.

If you want to increase your pleasure quotient while increasing your intuitive power while increasing your impact, purpose, and prosperity, you may be a good fit for my Channel Your Genius Academy.

Keep your channel wide open so you can co-create with the big boss, and make EVERYthing a lot freakin easier.

See if you’re a fit for the Channel Your Genius Academy with me – you’re invited!

You’re a Volcano of Genius

I’m currently relaxing on the Big Island of Hawaii, and here, new land is created every day.  That’s because the living active volcano, Kīlauea, is continuously flowing, and the hot lava that pours out of her eventually hardens into new land.  That’s pretty dang creative, I’d say.

Are you creative like a volcano?  Let’s find out…

  1. Have you ever had days, even weeks, where you were continuously flowing with ideas?
  2. Have you ever had an intense “eruption” of creative genius?
  3. Do you feel like a vessel sometimes, as if your great ideas are not really “yours” but rather some emergent movement of wisdom that rises up your center and (sometimes accidentally) out of your mouth?

I can really relate with this, even as I stand on the living volcano on Hawaii.

But some people want to OWN and claim “Genius” as their own.  They think they ARE a “Genius” all on their own.  Hm.  I don’t buy it.  It’s usually the person who claims they are a Genius, who are actually kinda closed to the true source of their own Genius.

As anyone who’s experienced genius flowing through them knows, Genius is not something you “are” but rather something you channel.  Like a volcano channels new-land-making hot lava.

Some creative smart folk avoid claiming and expressing their Genius, though.  Because they feel to be Genius would be too arrogant – too big – too presumptuous somehow.  

But we need GENIUS in the world now.  And we need to be talking about it.

Please don’t deny your Genius power, just cause you don’t want to be arrogant.  Don’t hide.  Don’t play small. We need you to channel your genius, please.

Hey, if we are all Channels of Genius – volcanoes that erupt our genius, and flow it through us into the world… we owe it to future generations to open that flow, and let it out! 

We should not hide in some kind of fearful humility, nor should we get big heads thinking we are the original source of our ideas. 

We can open. 

We can allow. 

We can relax and be the channels we are for this molten genius to flow through – powerful, righteous, and alchemically creating never-before-seen lands.

You don’t have to BE a genius.  You can be a volcano that births Genius.  Way more fun.

Want to learn some tricks to be a Channel of Genius?  Come on over and join the Channel your Genius Experiment group on FB, and I’ll give you a weekly experiment to play in your  own life to become more and more of a volcano of creativity, power, and prosperity.  BOOM!

Aloha from the Big Island,


P.S. This culture keeps teaching you to be more like a puffed-up arrogant self-proclaimed genius, and less like a volcano (a true channel of genius).  But these weekly experiments can make sure you stay OPEN to your own creative lava juice.  Don’t miss one more week. We are already a couple weeks into these 50 weeks of experiments!


Christine Whitmarsh
Mellissa is an awesome spiritual creative superpower!

I call her a Conduit of Creativity.

She has a unique and almost mystifying way of channeling your purpose, your gift and your niche and explaining how they work together in synchronicity.

She makes sense of spirituality (so you can make a profit with it).
I highly recommend working with her.

- Christine Whitmarsh,
CEO & Founder, Christine Ink