I was supposed to be holding it all together. But I had tears streaming down my face, even though I was co-leading a meditation event.  I was at that snotty messy sobbing phase, too.  It was not just the pretty tear-trickle kind of crying appropriate for awakened folks in meditation.  It was the “OMG I’m losing it in front of these 60 people” kind of crying.  I was upset about something that had happened right before the event.  And of course breath work brought it right to the surface.  And my choice in that moment was to let it come.  So I was broken open up there on the little stage.  And I must admit, most people didn’t notice.  They were involved in their own journey.

But there was one guy, sitting solid in himself, grounded in his hips, strong and awake and present and kind.  And he was gazing back at me with soft gentle laser blue eyes, and a relaxed face.  He grinned softly in such a way that I melted.  I knew I was safe.  It was his presence.  It was big.  Like even from 20 feet away, he was holding me in a big brother embrace that was completely safe.

That is my first memory of really meeting Jim Benson.

Yes, I’d heard about him.  He was a good friend of most of my best friends.  He’d been traveling the world teaching sacred sexuality, and studying sacred relationship arts, for years.  He was known to be an entertaining teacher and a goof – kinda like me.

But that moment, when his masculine totally held my feminine in my vulnerable state – that was when I really MET Jim Benson.

Years later, I was present for the birth of his child, as his wife Jess and I had become really close friends.  And I got to see Jim show up as a new father, broken open and vulnerable, and still strong and so so kind through the entire transformative experience.

Yes, I’ve seen Jim Benson walk his talk for many years.

And if you’ve ever tried to study sexuality, you know how freakin’ rare it is to find someone who is an expert in that area, and still holds deep integrity.  I mean, this guy is precious. 

Here are a few things I’ve learned from Jim Benson:

• Men care as much as women do about love, sex, and being true.
• Integrity in male sexuality is not just possible – it’s the highest expression of male power.
• Men can have multiple orgasms too- they just need to learn how.

Now that I’m a single gal, meeting and dating guys, I have more appreciation than ever for Jim’s gifts in this world.  I really feel for my brothers out there.  What a ton of heavy responsibility and pressure you all carry.  And I want more men to have this info, so I can date them.  Hehe.

If you are a man who wants to learn from Jim, or if you’re a woman who wants to encourage a man to learn from Jim, there’s a great opportunity coming up.

Power and wisdom manifests when a group of conscious men gathers with a clear intention. 

>>> He’s doing a one-of-a-kind intensive – his Boot Camp Weekend. <<<

I wish I was a guy so I could go.  That’s how good this thing is.

Since I’m a gal, please go for me. 🙂

The great price ends soon, and you should grab a spot while it’s still available. 🙂

Let me know how it goes for you.

And let him know that Mellissa Seaman sent you.  Cause he loves the people I send!

So many people are encouraging me to create a program to serve the super-sensitive gifted Dragon Kids – the Soul Gifted Kids that we know need our help to grow up to be leaders and innovators as is their destiny.

Because of all this support, I’m going for it!  With your support, I’m creating a program for Dragon Kids and the Adults who Love Them!  Yay!

>>> But I need your help – please would you take 4 mins to answer these 4 types of questions? <<<

I don’t want to create something that won’t help.  I really want to give this community what is most useful.

>>> Please do me a favor and answer these few questions for me – it means a lot to me! <<<

So many of you have written that you WANT to help the sensitive gifted kids get the simple clear support they need to avoid feeling devastated, judged, and put down.

>>> Here’s a simple step to take now to help the Dragon Kids – give me your answers! <<<

I really appreciate you being on this journey with me!

Thanks,

Mellissa

P.S. – This program is shaping up so beautifully with feedback from lots of you amazing folks.  I just need these few targeted questions answered, and then I can invite you to participate in this project at a couple of different levels – look for my post on this Friday or Saturday with the invite!

I sent out an email a few days ago on the topic of our sensitive gifted kids, and invited responses…

The community responded!  And here’s some of the collective wisdom on the topic, all of which is going into creating the program for the Dragon Kids and their parents, which I’m still putting the finishing touches on…

Here’s what we say…

What’s important?

• creating space for kids to thrive and feel “free” with their gifts
• showing the parents that it’s all OK and teaching them how to hold that space
• teaching kids to be respectful of other kids’ gifts too
• a foundational reinvention of the current *cultural* narrative.
• protection while they’re small – like a walled garden
• respect for nature, for self, for others
• healing the shame of being different
• teaching them resilience
• teaching parents to tune in with all realms of existence
• energetic awareness as part of essential education
• Validation of their words and needs and songs and emotions
• teach them to listen to their ‘good sense’  and what their feeling body is saying rather than their mind
• a Hogwarts school for sensitive intuitive kids
• affirmation that they are loved and we think they are awesome
• rituals and sacred space. Kids and adults need both of those to thrive. A safe place to explore and understand the invisible world.
• Parenting kids to succeed in this world while keeping their spiritual gifts and abilities intact

And here are some snippets from the incredible array of passionate stories I received back from parents and others who care about our Dragon kids, the soul-gifted sensitive little ones…

“I’m a former magical kid myself. My light got shuttered a long time ago and I work a corporate job to make lots of $$$ that I dislike in order to have enough $$$ to create a shield wall for my kids. But I know I am setting a bad example by doing this.

“Until I learn how to recover and rekindle and shield my own light, my own energy – I’m not going to do a very good job of teaching my kids. This is what I want to learn for myself, so I can teach them how to do it. So much of parenting is leading by example, as you know.”

“I think the best way that we can support these kids is to be active role models and mentors for them. So, they can see what weird magic adults look like, sound like, act like and are successful like…”

“I was wearing my 7-chakra pendant the other day and a 12-year old boy pointed at it and said, “cool.”  And English is not his first language.”

“I cried after I read your email because it was a relief to realize there is someone else who is deeply affected and concerned about the fact that sensitive children are simply not valued or understood. Traditional schools do not recognize or nurture them, and humanity is missing out big time because of society’s failure to notice and take action to foster the growth of these gifted children.”

“Your message left me in tears, which are still lining my eyes as I try to type.  For what exactly, I’m not sure. Maybe it stirs memories of being bullied at that age myself. Or just knowing the heartache that a fellow sensitive soul must have felt being cut down like that. It’s not fair!  It’s not right!”“I also saw things that others didn’t see as a child. I had energy friends that I now recognize were/are pure, living prana but they played with me. Here I am 56 years later just finding out that I still have access on that level. Often times, I was shamed for being different and shut down my life force energy just like that little boy. I saw, I felt, I smelled, I encountered what others did not and on some level it has made me a hermit and a loner because I rarely met people I could share it all with.”

“I cry with you.  I was a kid who got shut down with seeing colors, playing in the trees with fairies, and then they were all gone…it is real, the invisible world, that they are not crazy, they have a gift and a secret world that others are missing out on.”

“I get it. It was moving to me and now I’m all emotional.  I have a 7 year old and I worry about this exact thing. I was a weirdo kid lol and I see my son, he’s a gentle, gifted little guy. I also noticed many of the kids I see at this age are as well.  I feel like they’re going to change the world but they do need help and guidance.”

“I was born and raised in Croatia, where everything was not so readily available, although we did not miss anything, and were kids are loved and imagination was encouraged. Living in America since 89, in today’s Internet and cell phones world I am worried too.”

“I have a toddler daughter at home. I’m first starting with allowing myself to play, imagine, and be weird, because she’ll be watching me. I notice and make an effort to drop my guards, normalcy, some fears, and gosh – even gender bias – to allow her to play, make a mess, to be wild, to let her be.”

“We need to hold space for the children, lift them when they fall. But I do think adults need this permission and nudge to be playful and weird too.”

“As a grandmother of 4 fascinating little (and not so little) ones, I’ve observed similar incidents and also the painful assimilation of the magical kids into “normalcy”. However, I do see that, like you and me, the magic will return to these kids. We need to do what we can to support them by taking the stands you suggest.”

“We can do so much damage to dreamers, creatives, empaths, and others who are in any way more fragile than the world generally likes. I want to punch someone every time I hear the phrase “develop a thick skin” or “stop being so sensitive.” What if, instead, we honored that sensitivity? What if we created spaces where imagination and stories and thinking in new ways were encouraged rather than shot down? What if we saw this kind of sensitivity as a strength rather than a weakness?”

“My son was very emotional at school, so I went and picked him up.  I asked him why and what was the matter.  He couldn’t give a specific reason so I pressed.  From his little 6 year old mouth he said that he didn’t feel important or special, and disappointed in himself for not playing a larger role in the world to make it better.  He said he felt that he’s a leader but nobody at school gets it and that he isn’t able to freely express himself there and be who he is.   I was so astonished and proud at the same time!!!  What 6 year old thinks this way?????  …during the election/campaign time, he was very interested in politics.  But he said to me one night when I was putting him to bed, “Mom, you know there is a new planet forming, planet love.  On planet love there will be no need for politicians and presidents because everyone will just do the right thing.  Another astonishing and proud mommy moment.  I think some of these kids may know a thing or two more than we’d give them credit for.”

Your responses – ALL of your responses – moved me.  They moved me when I received them, and I’m crying as I’m assembling this array here.  Thank you so much for sharing this passion, this devotion, and this movement.

I’m creating a program full of clearing and kid-friendly techniques that I’ve used to help  these kids immediately and profoundly.  I’ll send out more info later this week.  But if you want to be a part of this, please comment below with “I’m interested.”  Thank you.

Not sure if you saw my blog post the other day, that told the story about the kid in the park (check that out here).  But since then, I’ve had over 50 passionate responses about it from people all over the world.  And I’m obsessed – in a really good way – and ready to create a solution that can serve sensitive kids and their parents.

Why? Lemme tell ya…

I look around this world, with the issues that need solved now, and I realize three things…

1.  I care most about helping  soul-gifted intuitively-guided innovative leaders make the impact they came here to make.

And our future leaders are struggling right now – as highly sensitive misunderstood genius kids who need our help.  

I call them Soul Gifted Kids.  I call them Dragon Kids.  

They have more energy than they are “supposed” to.  And they are more sensitive and energy aware than this culture understands.  But we get it.  Because we were that kid!  And now we are leaders…

2. I want to help YOU – as someone who is an innovative leader NOW, and as a leader-parent!

Do you realize that as a conscious parent, you ARE an innovative leader?

You parent consciously.  You know how precious that is?

Your kids are sensitive intense creatives (like you – duh) and they already don’t “fit in.”

Your brilliant kids have different experiences and needs than other kids.

As my dad loves to say, “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”

Well, there’s some truth to it.  Your kids are smart, sensitive, and plugged in.

And yes, that is “different.”

These kids may be seen as “overly sensitive, over imaginative, overly energized” to some people, but these same Gifts will also make them into the leaders we have been waiting for, if we can just get them to adulthood with their dignity intact.

Your role as an innovative parent is key to their making it to their own confident adult leadership.

And you’ve been telling me through passionate tear-stained emails that you want this more than any other purpose in your life.

3.  Our Soul Gifted sensitive Kids need special supportive training to understand and use their gifts.  They need this empowerment to avoid being judged, brutalized by the world, and labeled as broken.

In a culture that is post-indigenous, built on technology and patriarchy, on efficiency and capitalism, our sensitive Soul Gifted Kids need some extra tools to grow to be leaders.

• Tools to hold their own energy intact, and not be overwhelmed by outer energies.
• Tools to turn their problem areas into superpowers.
• Tools to ground deeply into the magic that is theirs to claim.

I mean why do you think Harry Potter books are so dang popular?

It’s because right now, there are lots of magical kids who really do need a wizard school.

So, with your help, I’m creating one – a school for parents and kids – a home study way that doesn’t take too much time, that is fun, that builds better relationships.

***

Hey, I’ve helped a lot of kids learn about their magic.  I’ve given them direct clearings. And it really evens them out.

I’ve helped kids who seemed autistic suddenly not seem so.

I’ve helped kids who could not sleep a wink to finally be able to ground and rest.

I’ve helped kids who wouldn’t look me in the eye to come to the place where they wanted to hug me and others they know and love.

I’ve done this for clients, for family, for friends.  And it comes very naturally.  I see and understand these kids.  And I can clear them, show them fun tools, and explain it all to their folks.

It’s too important.  I need to find a way to share this widely.

So…

I am creating something for your soul-gifted kids.  I can’t tell you all about it just yet, but I could use your help developing it – making sure that I provide the best help for these magical kiddos…

So if this moves you, please comment below me and share with me the single biggest challenge your beloved gifted amped up dragon kids face…

Because your input right now will help me design the perfect resources, games, and support for these kids we love.

Just comment below and talk to me about it… 

I will read your comment, send clearing and blessings for the kid!

Love,

Mellissa

P.S.  I am also aware that sometimes these soul-gifted kids’ behavior can be super challenging to a world that is not designed for them.  I know that many (like kids in my own family) can be diagnosed or mis-diagnosed, judged, bullied, restrained, and basically shut-down.  It can be brutal.  It can be also really hard to parent these dragon kids.  So I want to acknowledge you for facing this, for sharing it with me, and for talking about it.  Whether you’re a parent, a grandparent, or a god-parent of one of these special gifted kids, I just want to thank you for loving them, for holding your patience, and for seeing the potential of their greatness and supporting that.  Please do comment below and tell me about how it is for you, and for the kid you love.  This will help me help you further.  Thank you!

Oh. My. Goddess.

I just watched a totally magical kid get completely shut down.  And I need to tell you this story, because it has an important ending.

So I was at the grassy park with my dog, and I saw this kid wearing a cape and holding a fake foam sword, fighting off who knows what – dragons, demons, knights.  He was splendiferous!  Maybe he was like 5.  His little chest puffed out, he was ROAARRRing with the invisible battle he raged.  He was flailing into his foe.  I fricken loved watching him.  He was so big, so loud, and so boisterous.  What joy!

He was completely engrossed in his invisible world.  And, quite frankly, as a shaman lawyer gal who spends a ton of time in the “invisible world” every day, I was impressed with this kid’s passion, his focus, his POWER. I was honestly appreciating his soul as a colleague would. It registered that his guides were “training” him with this apparent imaginary fight in the park.  I was relaxing into the vision of this kid as a fully-grown up leader, maybe a speaker, like the next Tony Robbins or something.  That’s how big his energy was.  And I felt some hope for human kind.  I often take some comfort in knowing that kids like this are coming in, with so much energy, so much passion, so much bigness -and that they will be the leaders of tomorrow.

But then I saw it happen.  It was subtle.  But it broke my heart.

A group of three kids kicking a soccer ball around were kind of circling this kid.  They were a little older – two boys and a girl, maybe age 7 or 8.  One of the boys in particular was tracking my sword-wielding colleague, and I felt the creepy tickle in my belly even as I watched the next part play out.

The soccer ball bounced off the legs of the little warrior.  “Hey, Weirdo, you just missed the ball,” with the little sniggery sneer and the finger pointed and the head and hip cocked and the whole understated bully attitude kid thing.

My little warrior, shaken suddenly from his heroic revelry, literally shrank.  His energy body pulled in like a sea anemone who’s been poked in the belly.  I know lots of people watching would think this exchange no big deal.  But that little warrior – for him, the sudden interruption of his world, and the word “Weirdo” cut him down fast.  He stood there, suddenly still, just gazing back at the kids.  The girl jogged over and retrieved the ball, shaking her head at him condescendingly.  The two boys laughed at the stunned warrior.  And the three smugly dribbled the ball away.

Now my little warrior was smacking at the grass with his sword, raging at the ground.  He was angry.  He was raging but I think there were tears too.  I wasn’t quite close enough to tell.  And his energy bubble was tight in around him, instead of expanded like it had been.  There was pain there.  I thought about going over to him, but I could see his mom on her phone sitting on a lawn chair, casually watching him, not far away.  I didn’t know what to say to him, or to her.  So I watched him walk his zigzag line of defeat – back to his mom.

My legs were tingly, and I felt them fold underneath me as I sat down in the grass and I cried. I cried for myself at that age. I remember being hauled off to the child psychiatrist because I saw imaginary things, had imaginary friends, at that age.  Fortunately, that doctor had assured my mom that this was a sign of a “gifted” child, although I always wondered after that if really something was wrong with me.  And I cried for my daughter, Clarise, who at that age was sometimes teased for wearing her pink velour cape every dang day, and for constantly pretending she was a kitty-cat at school.  And I cried for the lack of imagination, of connection with the unseen world, and for the general loss of soul in our present day culture.  It seriously hit me so deep.

And then I felt embarrassed.  Because I was sitting there crying over something that most people would think was not-a-thing.  Like, most people who had witnessed this little exchange would just say “Oh kids are like that.”  And frankly, that is true.  Kids are competitive.  Kids pick on the “different” one.  Kids tease.  Like, if someone has walked up to me and said “Why are you crying?” I would have been embarrassed to tell the truth about what I witnessed and felt.

And there – right THERE – is the real problem, in my book.

Energetic sensitivity is a Gift – a marker of deep intuition and creative gifts that are applicable in the real world for innovators, for leaders, for designers of a new reality.

Yet in “normal” culture, we don’t talk about energetic sensitivity as anything except as a problem to get over.

Screw that.

That pisses me off.

We are ignoring the biggest power available to us.

While we all look for “unlimited free energy” we deny ourselves the deepest well of energy and truth we have – the invisible world of the soul, of our inspiration, of the magic that makes life worth living.

So f*** it.

I stand for a new culture – one where the invisible world is just as real as the physical one, and tapped and utilized to make a real difference right here on planet earth.

I stand for a value system that honors our sensitive ones – and recognizes their soul’s genius.

I stand for the kids who are trying to step into their unique power that includes their magic, their bigness, and their creative freedom – so that they can grow up with magic intact to lead this messed up world into a healed state that integrates intellect and intuition – productivity and meaning – reason and magic.

I don’t want to live in a world where magic, play, and imagination are destroyed without anyone even noticing or caring.

Ugh.  I feel so alone in this.

Do you know what I’m talking about here?

Dude, please comment here if you do.  

I need to know that I’m not the only one who sees the destruction of our magical kids happening in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.  And I’d love to hear your ideas – what can we do for these kids?

And thanks for hearing me.

Love,

Mellissa

P.S.  What can we do for these kids?  We need to step up for the magical ones who will be the leaders of our future.  If you have ideas, comment here or email me and tell me.  Thank you.